At Mass this Sunday we heard the Sermon on the Mount—the Beatitudes. It is a passage we are all very familiar with, in part because it is commonly chosen for funerals. Unfortunately, as I mentioned in my homily, the reason it is often chosen is not always the right one. As I have said several times before, we seem to have lost a sense of what a funeral truly is, and we sometimes expect it to be all about eulogizing—or even canonizing—the deceased.
I experienced this a few years ago when I was speaking with a family about the funeral of a loved one who was nearing death. I mentioned that I often prefer to choose the readings for the Mass, which can also be helpful to the family since it is one less thing to worry about. Their response was very telling of how many people see funerals today: “How can you choose the readings if you do not know our dying family member?”
“The homily in particular must ‘avoid the literary genre of funeral eulogy’ and illumine the mystery of Christian death in the light of the risen Christ,” says the Catechism of the Catholic Church (no. 1688). In other words, the point of the homily is not to focus primarily on the deceased, but on how Christ’s death and resurrection opened the gates of paradise—for the deceased and for all of us.
Furthermore, the readings are an integral part of the liturgy, not simply a way to personalize the celebration. As with every part of the Mass, there are norms we must follow. For example, during the Easter season the first reading is not taken from the Old Testament, as it is during the rest of the year.
The Church does allow families to choose the readings, and therefore we allow it as well. But if you ever find yourself planning a funeral, please don’t hesitate to let the priest choose the readings. Here at the Cathedral parish, we usually offer that as the first option. We may not know every detail about your loved one, but we know Christ—and we know how His death and resurrection have won salvation for your loved one, for you, and for me.